Alan Ramsey is the Student Ministries Lead Pastor at Fellowship Church in Knoxville, TN. He’s been working with students (specifically middle school students) for over 20 years and is honored to play a small part in God’s plan for their futures. Before joining Fellowship Church, Alan was the Assistant Middle School Pastor at Skyline Wesleyan Church in San Diego, California. He and his wife Diane have been married since May 1997 and have 5 children: Madison, Abigail, Kayla Ray, Rusten and Favour, who they recently adopted from Uganda, Africa. Let’s just say they have their own youth group at home!
As the parent of two teenage girls, I think one of the biggest mistakes parents of young teens can make is thinking we need to control the behavior of our kids. We can feel pressured to tell them what kind of people they need to be, so we can keep our kids from moving outside God’s moral boundaries. But this is dangerous.
When we focus on trying to control the outward behavior of our young teens, we actually hinder their development and cause a great deal of stress for ourselves.